I always find it funny when I sit with one of my moms and we discuss her maternity care. I get a lot of questions about birth, "what should I expect?" and "what should I do?". My answer is always "well what do you want to do?" That's when I chuckle, their face is so perplexed.
By telling moms what is "allowed", or "not allowed" we have removed their power, instincts, and confidence. Pregnancy and birth is a critical time for all of those feelings to be put to use!
This is such a great article that explains how to pick up on providers who fall into this and providers who trust you!